First, take a look at this website. I especially found the Q&A page helpful, and I'm interested in reading her new book, What Can I Do about
Second, I should have mentioned this sooner, but there is a book called He Restoreth My Soul. It's really good. My husband read it, and he said it helped him understand himself and his addiction better. I started it not too long ago, so I don't have as much experience with it. But it has also helped me understand what is going on a little better. and having a better understanding has helped me deal with my life better. When I have said there are so many chemical things going on in the brain and other things like that, that information has come from this book, and it's in much better detail than how I just say "chemical things." Haha.
***This book is specific to pornography (The full title is He Restoreth My Soul: Understanding and Breaking the Chemical and Spiritual Chains of Pornography Addiction Through the Atonement of Jesus Christ)
Next post on step 2 to come shortly :)